Im really muddling over something in my head, normally i wouldn't put a personal problem on a forum and ask for advice, but i really need to clear my head so here it goes:
To cut a long story short: I went round to a friends for smoke and a brew. Whilst i was there he lost a bag of cannabis, we both spent about half an hour looking for it but to no avail. We carried on having a brew and a smoke and i went on my way. The guy and his wife are very close friends of the missus
A few days later i get a call off my missus saying 'we need to talk' and she wouldnt say what it was about.
She comes round and explains that my 'mate' has acused me of pinching his bag of smoke. (which i obviously didnt)
He didnt come and speak to me, he went through my missus.
I went to his house to try and iron it out, but basically told him that he needs to grow a pair (over going through the missus) and that i have no need or reason to steal his smoke. We left it at that though he is still convinced that i took it.
Now to my problem: Not once during this whole bullshit siuation (which has been going on for about 6-8weeks now) has my girlfriend (of three years) defended me. Infact as she was the first to confront me over it she actuallty accused me of taking it. Whilst i was taking to her she was texting her mates updates as to what i was saying.
(i shouldnt have read the text messages, but she literally said 'im gaging his reaction to see if he is lying'
Now my missus is still friends with these people and often goes round for a chat etc
The other day i went round to the missus' house, only to be confronted by filthy looks off this guys wife. and to basically be ignored (even by the missus) until she fucked off.
Not once during this has my missus defended me/said anything to them. She keeps saying 'you know im on your side i just dont want to stir it' and 'this is awkward, they're friends'
Its really starting to get to me that she will not defend me.
earlier today she was talking of inviting them TO MY BIRTHDAY PARTY!!!!
she keeps organising things for us to do together and im making it more than apparent that i dont want anything to do with these people. I am not asking her to fuck her friends off, merely to show me some support.
Am i being selfish asking my missus just to tell her friends they are wrong?
i feel at the moment that i NEED her to say something
I have asked her but she wont as it may cause confrontation
Basically i feel at the moment that i come second to her mates
I honestly cannot see this relationship lasting if she insists on having these people as such a big part in her life.
P.s in the past the tables have been turned, i am not asking for anything which i have not already done/given myself
Thanks for your time guys
sorry to lower the tone
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